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Here's the BLUF. ( Bottom Line Up Front)
We kill our own motivation when we don't know how to work with it.
I know, it's hard to hear, but it's true!
When you're not motivated I want you to ask yourself 3 questions.
1. When was the last time I did something just because I enjoy it?
2. When was the last time I really celebrated a little win?
3. When was the last time I said, "I don't care." and really meant it?
It's been a while, right? Then this blog post is definitely for you.
To lead us into Motivation Secret #1, I want to share this quote that I heard from my Grandfather years ago. It has been made more recognizable by Brendan Burchard, and even he will tell you he's not sure where he heard it.
The power plant doesn't have energy, it creates it and then shares it.
That's the way it is with so many things, including joy, which is Motivation Secret #1.
1. DO SOMETHING FUN just because it brings you joy!
When we're feeling less motivated than we want or lack motivation entirely, it could be a sign of burnout. How do we address burnout? By refueling our tank. How do we do that? By having FUN. There aren't reserves of joy and happiness waiting for us to flip a switch. Sometimes we have to go out and FIND THEM.
"A little progress every day adds up to BIG results." ~ Satya Nani
This quote perfectly portrays why even the small wins matter and is a perfect lead into Motivation Secret #2.
2. Celebrate every win, no matter how small.
Celebrating every win, no matter how small builds self-confidence and trust that you CAN achieve the things you set out to achieve. By celebrating the little wins, you're also hacking your brain to give you little hits of feel-good chemicals, which are quite addictive. Each little hit causes your brain to want more, so when you decide it's time to work, your brain will fight you less because it knows feel-good chemicals are loading!
I had to use the GIF for #3 to help us all see the image in our minds.
This is the end of the story where Rhett is leaving Scarlett and she asks him, "But what shall I do?" At this point, Rhett has put up with so much bullshit from her he just simply does not care, and he tells her as much.
3. Cultivate "I don't care".
Mark Manson talks about our finite supply of fucks in his book, "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK." He is so right.
We have the ability to care about an unlimited number of things, just not WELL. Our minds can dart from one care to another, and back around through an infinite loop of cares and we will inevitably drive ourselves batty. So instead of passing out our care's (or our fuck's if like me you prefer that word) like they will never run out...
Cultivate your "I don't care." and decide, what is REALLY important? What can I influence and impact Right NOW? If you can't change the situation right this red hot minute, then how does caring (giving a fuck) help?
Save your sanity, and your fucks. For the really important stuff! This helps you maintain motivation to complete challenging tasks by preserving your energy for the things that really matter.
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